Chemistry! What is it? The “I need to see this person again” impulse? Or that “We click” feeling? What cause it? Does it need to happen naturally, or can you create it? Does it die over time, or are these tricks to keep the spark flying?
How do you define chemistry?
Chemistry is an animal attraction between two people. It is a connection, a bond or common feeling between two people. The connection appeals to the five senses: the way someone looks, their smell, the way they taste, the feel of their body, the sound of their voice. Chemistry happens very early in a friendship/relationship.
How do you know you have chemistry with someone? Are there “symptoms”?
When women experience “intense chemistry” with a guy, they tend to think about him all the time. Scarcity can increase the intensity, because when you part ways, you leave her wanting you more of your company. The only goal she seems to have for the day is for you to get back to her.
Symptoms? Rapid heart beat. Shortness of breath. Sensations of excitement that are often similar to sensations associated with danger. You can tell when there is chemistry between people because the sympathetic nervous system gets aroused. Blood pressure goes up a little, the skin may flush, the face and ears will turn red and there may be a feeling of weakness in the knees.
Can you create chemistry with someone you are not initially feeling it with and if so, how?
Chemistry is not something that “happens”, it can be created by careful practice. The best way is to be yourself. Many people project this image of themselves to be such a cool guy. But women know what you are hiding from them and can easily see it through you. So, I propose a better way of doing things. Instead be yourself. List down all the amazing personalities and attitudes that you have to offer to the world and start working on improving them one by one. Spend at least 15 minutes or more in a day writing down something about yourself that you really admire the most. In most situations, this particular personality starts to get reflected in you.
Can you tell if you have chemistry with someone online or on the phone, or do you have to meet in person to know?
I think chemistry would probably be less strong online or on the phone because research has shown that eye-to-eye contact is important in transmitting emotions. The exception would be for a shy person, who has trouble relaxing in social situations. Online contact would be less stressful for this person, and the more relaxed state would allow the chemistry to emerge.
How long does it take to know if you have chemistry with someone?
“Love at first sight” is a romantic notion. But experts recommend exercising a bit more patience to take time (at least after three dates) before you decide whether she is a match to you. The reason: People are usually quite tense on first date begin to loosen up a bit on 2nd date, but only on 3rd date can people truly relax and build some rapport.
While sparks early on are nice happenings, they say nothing about someone’s long-term potential. An important part of a compatible relationship is to ensure that each partner’s values coincide, and to learn that takes time, discussion, observation and interpersonal interaction, not an initial impression based on superficial cues. Therefore, don’t write someone off or fall head over heels until you have done your due diligence on her.
Can you be “just friends” with someone and then get hit with a wave of chemistry that makes the relationship change direction?
This is pretty common – where you are around someone for years and never realized that you have a feeling of attachment for the person, and then something happens. It is usually an event, or it can simply be that you two have been doing the same thing together for a while, which puts you on the same wavelength. This also often happens to co-workers who have been “just friends” but suddenly find themselves involved in an affair while working on an important project together. This type of interaction has been found to increase feelings of attraction.
What is most important to a successful relationship, chemistry or compatibility?
Chemistry is the connection that you have with someone. Compatibility is a partnership of similar goals. If two people have chemistry and are not compatible, the relationship will not last long. If two people are compatible, they can find their chemistry. However, compatibility by itself cannot overcome a lack of chemistry. Both are equally important for a successful relationship.
Does chemistry fade with time? Is there any way to bring it back?
Chemistry can fade if you don’t pay attention to it. If communication is minimal due to responsibilities such as time-intensive careers, kids, money, etc. Life’s demands can contribute to couples misplacing their chemistry. However, chemistry does not necessarily have to fade with time. What makes it fade is not familiarity, but the fact that many couples get into routine ways of being together and habitual ways of making love. Also many couples give up their independence and their old friends, and start to act out of obligation. They forget that they are two separate individuals and this detracts from the sexual attraction they initially felt.
Here are 9 ways you can choose from to prevent chemistry from fading:
(1) You can throw parties.
By organizing parties and inviting your friends as well as her friends, you will have an opportunity to be around each other without being attached to one another. This is a great way to keep the flame of your relationship burning.
(2) Spend time apart from each other.
Being apart not only allows you some freedom, but it will also make both of you miss each other a little and is an ideal way to keep a long-term relationship interesting. For example, you can take a night to visit a friend out of town, or you can suggest she spend the weekend at her parents’ place so they can catch up.
(3) Giving gifts
Giving presents (not necessary to be expensive but must be sincere) to someone not only let her know you love her, but also that you have been thinking of her when she is not around.
(4) Make surprise visits
Don’t be a stalker, but every once in a while, pop into her workplace and take her out for lunch or just stop to say hello. It is the same reasoning behind getting her a gift. It is a reminder to her that you are thinking of her.
(5) Go on dates
At times, bring her to movies, make reservations at eating places that are affordable and romantic. Make this a regular thing, weekly or bi-weekly depending on your budget and schedule.
(6) Set goals together
This is a great way to reinvigorate not only your long-term relationship, but your ambition. Sit down and discuss with her what you want in the long-term and how to reach the goals. Once they are accomplished, set new goals such as health, comfort, happiness, etc.
(7) Visit some new places
By going to a new city, town, a new beach or a new hotel, you will be opening up to a wide range of new conversation topics. This is a great to keep the chemistry in a relationship.
(8) Try new things in the bedroom
After a long time with each other, it inevitably gets a little monotonous in the bedroom with both partners going through the same motion. If you really want to give your relationship staying power, put in extra effort in the bedroom such as trying different lovemaking positions, bring in some sex toys, or find different places to make love.
(9) Discover things together
Take a cooking class together, do yoga with each other or take dancing lessons. It is always better to have something in common that you can discuss together. Keep searching for something new to talk about so that you will be able to keep that initial feeling (chemistry) alive for the years ahead.
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