What Should You Do When She Tells You That She Needs A Little More Space?

Have you ever wonder why some couples who are madly in love with each other, cohabit for over 5-6 years and one of them succumb to the temptation from a third party whom he/she just knows for 5-6 days? Have you ever heard of this saying,”Meeting after a brief separation period feels like you are in honey period. Or – “Absence makes the heart grows fonder.” If you like to find out more, please read on.

When a woman says she “needs some space”, what she really means is, her attraction triggers are no longer flipped in your presence. The truth is, she doesn’t really know how to express clearly what has actually happened, all she knows is she used to be excited by your presence and now she no longer feels the same way.

This has nothing to do with her “needing more space”, but this is the only way she can put into words the change in her feeling of attraction for you. She is just as confused as you about her change, thinking that she should be attracted to you, but just doesn’t feel the same anymore.

One thing to take note is women make decisions about attraction much different than men do. If she is attracted to you, she will always find ways and time to be with you. If she is not, she won’t. She may not know how to explain her change of feelings or she does not want to be too blunt to you and as a result she can only give some excuses saying she “needs space”, ”just want to be friends”, “shouldn’t be dating now”, or some other words that best fits her attraction towards you waning.

What should you do if you encounter such situation? The best way is not to let this happen to you in the first place, because once it happens you will have to do a lot of work to get her back. This is certainly not impossible, but you just have to work extra hard.

When you meet a woman and both of you are attracted to each other, you should limit the amount of time you spend with her so as not to allow her to “totally dominate” your life. What I mean by this is, you should fill up your life with other things that are equally important to you such as fitness, business, friends, learning, hobbies, keeping in touch with your parents and siblings and other things that make up a full life. You can make her an important part of your life, but only a part and do let her know there are other things that matter a lot to you.

Most of the time women love men who behave in this way and the best women have full lives to live while you are living yours. When too much of your free time is taken up with her, gradually this will become a routine or chore to you and attraction will wane. Just as the old saying that goes “passion wanes with time and familiarity” and this is absolutely true in every relationship. So, you should now understand when you hear of some couples who cohabit for over 5-6 years and in the end they separate.

But if you just arrange enough time to see her during the week, each time when you see her, the feeling is like you both just start to know each other and the attraction will hold. You have your own life and she has hers. In this way whenever you meet her, both of you have something new to talk and some fresh experience to share with. So keeps the variety going and she will never tell you that she needs “space” because both of you have plenty of it now.

If the relationship goes to the point where she says she needs “space” this is a major warning sign. This is what you should do – say to her, “You know, that is a great idea and I was just going to suggest this to you. I think it is a good idea that we should spend some time apart and develop other aspects of our lives. Let’s do it and meet again in 3 days.” During these 3 days without her, you catch up with the things that you have probably neglected.

This can have a major effect on a woman because you have “stolen” the scarcity frame she has tried to set with you. All of a sudden, she starts to wonder, “Why is he so excited about being apart from each other and why is he not angry!?” Her mind starts to go to work and turn in on itself because you have just added an element of mystery and intrigue.

What can usually happen after these regular brief separation periods is she will miss your presence because the attraction triggers are flipped on. But you can’t revert to the old ways and spend too much time with her again, because she will “need space”. Simply limit your time with her, cultivate the other aspects of your life and if you like to, you can meet other women. She will be attracted to you all over again.